Questions of the Week - 9 September 2004

rod steel global · Joined: 27 Jun 2002 Posts: 636

No

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Yes, I'm a fool

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what was the question again...? :laugh

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Do you find it hard to say "no"? Do you often do favors you wouldn't rather do because you don't want to say no? If so, why?

ED1G · PIGGY MOONRUST Joined: 31 Oct 2002 Posts: 2644

I used to. Its hard but if you sorta slap yourself and try you can say NO!! ....

I think I never said no because deep down I dont like hurting peoples feelings.... and Its my nature to help people.....

Just practice...

NO!

NO!

NO!

NO!!!!!!!!! NO!!!!!!! NO!!!!!

Ah ok then!! :lol

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RonOnGuitar · Joined: 08 Jan 2003 Posts: 1916

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Do you find it hard to say "no"?

Hmmm...well, girls sure don't have a problem telling me "NO!". :stress

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Do you often do favors you wouldn't rather do because you don't want to say no? If so, why?

If I can't do something, it's much easier to say "I'm sorry, but..."

But when I do find myself doing a favour that is "out of my way", I like to look for positive aspects. For example someone asks me if I'd run to the store to pick up something for them when I'm relaxed in a chair watching a video and not in the mood.

So I tell myself, "Self " I say "it would be nice to go for a walk (only six blocks) and I maybe I can pick up some things I want/need while I'm there." And I might see a garage sale along the way to peruse through. Or chat with an interesting person at the store. So it becomes a bit of an adventure, lol.

If it's a favour I just can't do - say, like keeping someone's dogs in my flat overnight (cats allowed, no dogs) - I'll look for an alternative that will help out. I might know someone who can do the favour, for example.

I suppose there are a lot of folks who do just about every favour asked, coming from a need to have everybody like them. But as the late Ricky Nelson said in "Garden Party":

"It's all right now,

I learned my lesson well:

You can't please everyone,

so you've got to please yourself."

Seismic Anamoly · Joined: 22 Aug 2002 Posts: 3039

Depends on who's asking.

I have co-workers and friends I'd do just about anything for....I happily say "yes" to them.

....other co-workers couldn't pay me double my annual salary to lift a finger....I in turn happily say "no" to them.

And when you're the only one at work that knows how to operate a particular computer program, that little "no" provides extreme satisfaction. :lol

bbchris

And when you're the only one at work that knows how to operate a particular computer program, that little "no" provides extreme satisfaction

Seismic!!! hahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahaa You are funny!

Do you find it hard to say "no"?

Yes I do.

Do you often do favors you wouldn't rather do because you don't want to say no? If so, why?

I used to be terrible at this but am much better now. I was a bit of a people pleaser. hahahahahhaha

Seismic Anamoly · Joined: 22 Aug 2002 Posts: 3039

Can't speak for everybody, but we're VERY pleased you're around at Blah Blah....thanks for just being the fantastic person that you are.

SINTZ · Penguin in Bondage Joined: 02 Sep 2002 Posts: 388

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Do you find it hard to say "no"?

Yes I do.

I just love a woman that answers YES. :dang

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HatefulMusic · Ears bleeding yet? Joined: 08 Jun 2003 Posts: 793

No.

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axella · Joined: 12 Jul 2004 Posts: 148

I used to say yes a lot more often, but discovered that when I would have to ask a favour, certain people would come up with any manner of excuse...

So I say yes to good friends, only (depending upon what they're asking, that is). I no longer care about being loved by all, and if I offend a loser/user, too bad.